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02 July 2006 @ 09:23 pm
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Was today. Saw the first of the extended family today, along with quite a few family friends. The extended family has always been fairly close and we have always gotten along well, and that means that family funerals (namely for my grandparents) have never been terribly bitter affairs, but between the cold and the fact that it was my dad (and unexpected)... Well, my stamina for it wasn't terribly great.

I, along with my brother, dad's ex-girlfriend (a term that doesn't do it justice, they were very close for almost twenty years), and all but one of his siblings (the one that hadn't arrived yet) spoke at the funeral. I had nothing prepared, so made it up on the spot. Apparently it was okay, since I received a number of compliments about it; I don't quite remember what I actually said, just what I meant to say. Actually, I think everyone who spoke spoke very well, including my brother, who told me he hadn't prepared anything either.

It was strange being back in the parish where I spent most of my childhood; a lot of things about this trip are bringing back memories.

The worst of the stress is gone; I think I was dreading seeing people and not knowing what to say. Most of all, I was dreading speaking.
 
 
In the mood: sadsad
 
 
 
dragonet2dragonet2 on July 3rd, 2006 04:07 am (UTC)
That's really a very good response
I was a bit worried (as I told you) that your family wasn't as close as it appears t be. My dad's services in Oklahoma were marred by the fact he was the brother that 1) actually did the best of all of them, 2) his mother was a bitch who made the boys compete and they actually didn't start 'trying' to be nice' to one another until my uncle Barney passed. Feelings were still pretty uglly when dad passed, partly because he was so succesful.

We love you and want to support you Remember that family sometimes comes without bloodlines.
Douglas Triggs: lodestardoubt72 on July 4th, 2006 04:32 am (UTC)
Re: That's really a very good response
'Tis true. It's good that many people in my family are also friends, and many of my friends are as family.
lyte13 on July 3rd, 2006 02:56 pm (UTC)
I'm really sorry about your loss. I know that these few words seem insignificant but my thoughts are with you and your family.
Douglas Triggs: astronomydoubt72 on July 4th, 2006 04:35 am (UTC)
Thanks. While the words might not be much, the thoughts mean quite a bit to me.

redfiermaredfierma on July 3rd, 2006 11:34 pm (UTC)
I'm so glad your family is close, and that today went comparably smoothly. *hugs* Take care.